"A Man Can Cheat, But a Woman Cannot" – Lege’s Controversial Stance
In a now-viral video, Lege Miami asserted that husbands have the "prerogative" to lock their phones and engage in infidelity, while wives who do the same are undeserving of marriage. His remarks, framed as advice from a "relationship expert," included the shocking claim:
“Any housewife who puts a password on her phone or uses a password to hide certain information on her phone is a prostitute. If a married woman can put a password on her phone, she is a prostitute. Quote me anywhere.”
He went further, stating that such women should “pack their load and leave the house” if they refuse to comply with his standards of a "good and responsible wife."
Social Media Backlash: "Hypocrisy and Misogyny"
The video quickly spread across X (formerly Twitter), Instagram, and Facebook, with many users condemning Lege’s stance as blatant misogyny. Critics highlighted the hypocrisy of his argument, which grants men unrestricted privacy and freedom while demanding total transparency from women.
- @AdaTheFeminist tweeted: "So men can cheat and lock their phones, but women can’t even have basic privacy? Lege Miami isn’t a ‘relationship expert’—he’s a toxic masculinity promoter."
- @RealNigerianWife wrote: "If a man is so insecure that his wife’s phone password threatens him, maybe HE isn’t ready for marriage."
- @EqualRightsNG added: "This is the same backward mentality that normalizes abuse. Privacy isn’t infidelity. A password doesn’t make anyone a ‘prostitute.’"
Double Standards in Modern Relationships
Relationship experts and psychologists have long emphasized that trust and mutual respect—not surveillance—are the foundations of a healthy marriage. Lege’s comments contradict modern principles of equality, where both partners are entitled to personal privacy without being accused of wrongdoing.
Sociologist Dr. Funmi Adebayo weighed in, stating: "This kind of rhetoric reinforces patriarchal control in relationships. A marriage built on suspicion and one-sided restrictions is doomed to fail. Both partners deserve trust and autonomy."
Lege’s History of Provocative Statements
This isn’t the first time Lege Miami has made headlines for controversial opinions. Known for his polarizing takes on gender roles, he has previously argued that women should tolerate infidelity to keep their marriages intact. His latest remarks, however, have triggered the strongest backlash yet, with many calling for him to be stripped of any "relationship expert" title.
The Bigger Issue: Privacy vs. Distrust in Marriages
Beyond the outrage, the debate raises an important question: Should spouses have unrestricted access to each other’s phones? While some couples opt for transparency, others believe personal boundaries are necessary for individual autonomy.
- Pro-Transparency View: Some argue that in a healthy marriage, partners should have nothing to hide, hence no need for passwords.
- Pro-Privacy View: Others counter that trust means respecting personal space—locking a phone doesn’t equate to infidelity.
Final Word: A Call for Balanced Perspectives
Lege Miami’s extreme stance has undoubtedly fueled necessary conversations about gender equality in relationships. However, his assertion that women forfeit their right to privacy upon marriage is not just outdated—it’s dangerous.
As the debate continues, one thing is clear: A successful marriage isn’t about control; it’s about mutual respect. And in 2024, that includes the right to a password-protected phone—without being labeled a "prostitute."