Despite that Wizkid had issues with me, I did not stop reporting stories
relating to him. I reported Wizkid because, violence against women and threat of violence against
women is not okay, she said.
Below is as
shared on her blog
I’m sure
many of you have read that the police is now involved in my issue with Wizkid.
Yes, I reported his public threat to me two Sundays ago to the Lagos State
Commissioner of Police and I want to explain why I did it! Please pay attention
and keep an open mind.
I’ve read a
lot online from people saying I don’t like Wizkid. Even Wizkid himself thinks I
don’t like him. Why he or anyone would think so is puzzling to me to be honest.
Apart from his achievements after he started insulting me online a few weeks
ago…everything else, every success Wizkid has recorded in the last 3/4 years is
on LIB. All the awards, all the record breaking feats, his sold out concerts,
his foreign magazine features, and collaborations, everything that has built
him up to the young man he is today is on LIB. Please verify! Search my blog.
Please continue…
I was a
huge Wizkid fan. The only song I danced harder to than his ‘Dance For Me’ track
was Fuse ODG’s ‘Antenna and Kiss Daniel & DJ Shabzy’s Raba. So, no, I had
no dislike for Wizkid. But about a year ago, I noticed his indirect snide
remarks at me…and when some other music star beefed with me, Wizkid showed his
support and made disrespectful comments. That was when I noticed he had issues
with me… but that didn’t stop me from writing about him and celebrating him.
Now to the
issue at hand. When I reported that he was served quit notice at his Lekki
home, I stated fact and I didn’t write it out of malice. It’s not everyday you
get exclusive stories…and I’m sure any other blogger who got the story first
would also have published it. So, there was no beef, I was just doing my job. A
day or so after I wrote this story, Wizkid went on my instagram page to call me
names and lied that I slept with some director of his…which I have said before
is 1000% lies! But the insult and lies is not why the police is now involved.
Here’s the
thing; You can insult me, insult my family, call me any names you like, even
lie that I slept with your forefathers…but don’t threaten me. If you threaten
me, I will act!
I read
people online saying that I reported to the police because I am scared of
Wizkid. No, my darlings, I am not afraid of Wizkid. Though I do not take his
threats lightly. I went to the authorities for two reasons…and please young
boys of our generation, pay attention to what I am about to write below.
You see,
violence against women and threat of violence against women is not okay.
Threatening harm to someone in a public space is a criminal act in every
country of the world, including Nigeria. I bet some of you didn’t know that,
yeah? You can not publicly threaten someone with harm. You will only get away
with it if your victim doesn’t report to the authorities. If they do, you will
have a case with the police and I promise you, the police take these things
seriously.
I reported
this case to the authorities because I want our young men to know this is not
okay. You should not raise your hands on a woman. You shouldn’t even threaten
to raise your hands on a woman. Wizkid wrote that he would send his 16 year old
cousin to beat the shit out of me. Letting Wizkid get away with it is basically
telling our young men that this is okay…and it’s not!
After
Wizkid made the threat to me, I saw a lot of teen boys hailing and applauding
him. To them, this was okay. If their idol can threaten a woman with harm, and
use derogatory words, they also can do it…and that’s how the circle of abuse of
women continues. Women being called ‘smelly pussy’ trended online for a day or
two! Little boys were happy to use the words. Sad!
It is
appalling to me that anyone, especially women, would cheer Wizkid on. When he
wrote RIP Linda, I saw a few young girls write same, laughing. This is not a
laughing matter. It doesn’t matter whether you like me or not! This is not
about Linda Ikeji. This is about abuse of women which has eaten deep into our
society, so deep that it has now been accepted as normal. Men do it all the
time and get away with it. So many women are battered by their husbands and
they refuse to speak up because of the stigma. They refuse to seek help because
they are afraid of what people will say. I am sorry, I am not one of those
women. I refuse to be victimized. And as long as I have my voice and my
platform, I will speak up.
We women
have to come together to lend a strong voice to the plight of women in our
continent. When we see a woman being physically and mentally abused, let’s act.
Let’s speak up. Let’s not laugh and say she deserves it. If we continue to keep
quiet, the circle of abuse will continue. And one day, You, yes You, will find
yourself in the receiving end of a thundering slap, followed by heavy blows. If
not you, then maybe your daughter? Let’s condemn violence and threat of
violence against women! This is not acceptable!
Young men
like Wizkid, a father of two young boys himself, should never advocate violence
against women. One day, he will have a daughter, how would he feel if another
male threatens to put hands on her or even calls her a hoe?
I can’t
count how many times Wizkid called me a hoe in his rant against me. That’s what
boys do. When they get into a fight with a woman, they try to slut-shame her.
Smelly pussy, hoe, ashawo etc. You call a woman, who gave another young woman,
whose real name she doesn’t even know N500,000 just because she said she would
rather work by carrying cement than prostitute herself, that’s the person you
call a hoe? When your mind is so warped you can’t differentiate between a woman
and a hoe, then this is what happens. Except you drive to Sanusi Fanfuwa at 2am
to pick up a prostitute, who proudly describes herself as one, then you
shouldn’t call any woman a hoe.
Even Tupac
who was a well known thug could differentiate between the types of women he
dealt with. When asked in an interview why he called women bitches, he said
people shouldn’t confuse things, that he wouldn’t address a mother or a sister
the way he would address a bitch, that the bitches were the ones he dealt with
in the clubs who behaved like one. He reiterated that he respected women!
In more
civilized countries, Wizkid would have lost his endorsements and spent the next
year or so apologizing and being in the fore-front of promoting anti-violence
crusades against women. It took Chris Brown years to get back on his feet after
his assault on a woman. Up till today, he doesn’t have any major endorsements
and some countries still deny him entrance into their country i.e Australia for
something he did 7 years ago. Yes, violence against women is serious!
And there’s
the case of incitement. When you have power and influence, you have to be
careful what you say in public. Because you have such power, something you say
can influence your followers. A fan can commit acts that even you may not
support or might not even condone. But because it came out of your mouth, they
think you mean it. So it is irresponsible to say things that might be
inciteful. In Law, you can be held responsible when people act based on what
you said in public. Tupac was charged to court and indicted after some thugs
killed a police officer. The thugs went to court and mentioned that their idol
encouraged violence against LA police officers in a song where he said ‘Drop a
cop’. So, we folks with some measure of influence should be more careful with
our utterances. People are watching and listening!
The second
reason I filed a police report is to encourage other women in similar
situations to do same. My dear ladies, if a man threatens to puts hands on you,
and you feel the threat is real, report to the authorities. Don’t wait until he
does it. What if you don’t survive it? If he’s picked up and may be charged to
court (yes, you can be charged to court for making threats…it’s a misdemeanor
with a prison sentence), then he will think twice before making threats against
you in the future or any other woman for that matter.
I went as
far as I did for me and for other women. This is to pass a strong message to
our young men that these kinds of behaviour towards women will not be
tolerated. Should not be tolerated. If you assault or even threaten to assault
a woman, the law will come after you if she chooses not to be silent. Women,
don’t be silent. Let’s break the circle. For your sake, for my sake, for the
sake of our daughters, grand daughters, great grand daughters and all other
women that will follow them.
And that’s
really all I have to say in the matter. Thank you guys for reading
And to
Wizkid fans, please be rest assured that I wish him all the best in life. He
will continue to grow from strength to strength (as long as he doesn’t endorse
violence against women) and his light will never diminish. God brought him to
this level and will continue to keep him. I have nothing but love for his craft
and hope that one day, we will put this behind us.
God bless
him, me, you and everyone else in the world
Cheers.
Oh and by the
way, I’m starting my vlog series soon. #excited!